The voices of mothers whose children have become hyper-aligned to their father
Living Losses was a collaborative project between mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, daughters and granddaughters, friends and other women across the UK to remember lost children and raise
awareness about the dynamics that lead to the loss of a relationship with a child who has become hyper-aligned to an abusive or harmful parent. The project was created by the Family Separation
Clinic in 2015.
I recorded the experiences of some of the mothers who participated in the project, in London. Their painful stories serve to highlight the damage that is caused, not only to children, but also to
parents. I am grateful to those who took part for their honesty and willingness to share the hurt that is coping with a living loss.
